A little while back I had the honor of lettering Nora and AJ's vows for their first wedding anniversary! Such a big milestone in a marriage :)
And of course behind every marriage, there's a sweet love story that just needs to be shared. I asked Nora a few questions and her words were to good not to share exactly as she wrote them!
How did the two of you meet?
We met on OKCupid! I was on and off of the site and online dating in general for a couple of years--really just enjoying being single and dating, but also on the look out for something special. AJ was a self-described serial first-dater...casting a wide net for a few years and always looking for what or who was next--until me! We had an instant connection on our first date, and the rest was history!
What's your favorite memory from your wedding day?
My favorite memory from our wedding day is a tough question! We had a perfect day filled with joy and laughter. I'll tell you two small bits. Neither of us felt particularly nervous, I don't think, but AJ had trouble sleeping the night before thinking about details he didn't want to go wrong. The pictures showing his face leading up to our first look show some real emotion--anticipation, a little anxiety, and definitely some fatigue. But the moment I put my hand on his shoulder, his face changed completely--into a warm and honest look of relief. A second great memory is actually from when we were reciting our vows! We were trying hard to take some wise advice we had been given to really listen to and think and subscribe to the words we were saying and not to just repeat mindlessly. But because we were trying to be so in the moment, we had a really hard time repeating what was said. We each had to ask for a repetition or peak over at our officiant's notes a couple of times! It made for a lot of sincere laughter and really a sweet moment :)
What inspired you to select the vows you did?
Neither of us is religious so we didn't want to use fully traditional vows or a religious officiant. In Colorado, where we live and got married, it's legal to self-solemnize your own marriage license--to just sign as the two parties that you're married and that's that. We chose that route and to have a good friend officiate or emcee a ceremony for us without getting internet-ordained. She had never done it before, so we really wound up crafting our own ceremony based on a lot of Google and Pinterest searches ;). We wanted to find our own vows that spoke to us in a serious way and had some semblance of a traditional ceremony ("for richer or poorer..." etc). We wound up scouring the internet for non-religious vows and secular wedding ceremonies and picked and chose different pieces from different posts that sounded right to us. We're really happy with what we wound up with!
Congrats on being married for a year!! What advice would you give to new couples embarking on the adventure that is marriage?
We are each other's best friends, hands down. We say "I love you" several times a day and kiss and hug when we say goodbye in the morning and when we greet each other after work. We remind each other often that we're on the same team and that we're in it together. It's going pretty well so far, and we're excited for our future!
Thank you, Nora for sharing your story with me and for letting me be a small part of this special moment in your marriage!