The Proper Way to Address Envelopes: Hint It's Not What You Think

We’ve all been there - trapped in a moment, paralyzed by indecision, completely hung up on the proper or right way to do something.

After countless google searches, combed through blog posts, and searched images, something just doesn’t feel right. It’s all just too formal. Inauthentic. It’s not YOU.

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And let me be the first to tell you, I’ve been there. Back in the day, before this calligraphy business of mine was born, I was sitting at my kitchen table having this same debate over my wedding envelopes. On the one hand, I wanted to honor my mom’s friends, who I assumed (yes, most of these hang ups we grapple with are assumptions on our parts), wanted to be addressed more formally.

And yet, a lot of our friends had gone the route of not sharing last names, which I didn’t want to butcher in some formal style that just wasn’t made to honor these choices. And so, I was at a crossroads of not having my envelopes all be the same. *gasp*

But then it dawned on me. It DID NOT MATTER. And in fact, the formality of titles just wasn’t authentic to who we were. Most days, if you’re lucky, you can find us in jeans and the most casual of shirts. Dressing up is reserved for special occasions.

Our favorite date night spot? A hole in the wall Mexican place around the corner from our old house.

So I got a little crazy. Addressed my parent’s friends formally. Our friends without kids, with just their first names. And friends with kids got some combo of first names plus kids names or a family name.

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And you know what, no one reached out saying, “Dang, I can’t believe you left my title off.” Instead, we got compliments on how pretty the envelopes were. How excited people were to celebrate with us. Well wishes from a far. And check ins on how everything was going.

All of this to say that, if you’re on the cusp of lettering a batch of envelopes, be it for a wedding, a shower, holiday cards, etc. It’s OK to let go. Be a little different. And do what feels right to you. Because at the end of the day, you, the person on the other end of that card, is what people really care about.

And if you’re still stuck and needing a little help making a final decision, I’m only an email away.