The Proper Way to Address Envelopes: Hint It's Not What You Think

We’ve all been there - trapped in a moment, paralyzed by indecision, completely hung up on the proper or right way to do something.

After countless google searches, combed through blog posts, and searched images, something just doesn’t feel right. It’s all just too formal. Inauthentic. It’s not YOU.

Photo by  Soul Focus Media

And let me be the first to tell you, I’ve been there. Back in the day, before this calligraphy business of mine was born, I was sitting at my kitchen table having this same debate over my wedding envelopes. On the one hand, I wanted to honor my mom’s friends, who I assumed (yes, most of these hang ups we grapple with are assumptions on our part), wanted to be addressed more formally.

And yet, a lot of our friends had gone the route of not taking each other’s last names, which I didn’t want to butcher in some formal style that just wasn’t made to honor these choices. And so, I was at a crossroads of not having my envelopes all be the same. *gasp*

But then it dawned on me. It DID NOT MATTER. And in fact, the formality of titles just wasn’t authentic to who we were. Most days, if you’re lucky, you can find us in jeans and the most casual of shirts. Dressing up is reserved for special occasions.

Our favorite date night spot? A hole in the wall Mexican place around the corner from our old house.

So I got a little crazy. Addressed my parent’s friends formally. Our friends without kids, with just their first names. And friends with littles got some combo of first names plus kids names or a family name.

Photo by  Soul Focus Media

And you know what, no one reached out saying, “Dang, I can’t believe you left my title off.” Instead, we got compliments on how pretty the envelopes were. How excited people were to celebrate with us. Well wishes from a far. And check ins on how everything was going.

All of this to say that, if you’re on the cusp of lettering a batch of envelopes, be it for a wedding, a shower, holiday cards, etc. It’s OK to let go. Be a little different. And do what feels right to you. Because at the end of the day, you, the person on the other end of that card, is what people really care about.

And if you’re still stuck and needing a little help making a final decision, I’m only an email away.

Stories Behind the Script: Katie's Story

Y'all have heard me say this before, but nothing makes me more excited to know the WHY behind a print that I'm lettering - seriously it makes it that much more special.

And when I get asked to letter something for a friend, I get just that much more excited :)

Needless to say I was thrilled when Katie asked me to letter her now husband, Mark's, favorite poem as a groom's gift.

These two lovebirds got hitched earlier this June and I couldn't be more excited for them. Congrats you two!!

PS How cute is this frame that Katie picked out for the print which now hangs in their room? I love watching a print transform from the one that leaves my little corner desk and seeing how it's displayed in it's new home :)

the laughing heart groom's gift for mark

Stories Behind the Script: Janelle and Roberto's Story

Last December my sweet cousin Janelle got married to her partner in crime, Roberto. The ceremony was in a beautiful church in downtown Tampa and the reception was perfectly rustic in an outdoor covered barn space. Simple and sweet - my favorite!

I was thrilled when Janelle reached out to me about addressing her wedding envelopes. Not only did the turquoise color go perfectly with the invitations she had picked out from Wedding Paper Divas, but Emily and Thomas from The Ganeys captured the suite beautifully!

Janelle and Roberto's Wedding Invitations
janelle and roberto bridesmaids
janelle and roberto church
janelle and roberto reception
Janelle and Roberto Bride and Groom

To top it all off, these two are expecting a little one for their one year anniversary!! Congratulations Janelle and Roberto! :) I couldn't be happier for you two!

Stories Behind the Script: Nora's Story

A little while back I had the honor of lettering Nora and AJ's vows for their first wedding anniversary! Such a big milestone in a marriage :)

And of course behind every marriage, there's a sweet love story that just needs to be shared. I asked Nora a few questions and her words were to good not to share exactly as she wrote them!

How did the two of you meet?
We met on OKCupid!  I was on and off of the site and online dating in general for a couple of years--really just enjoying being single and dating, but also on the look out for something special.  AJ was a self-described serial first-dater...casting a wide net for a few years and always looking for what or who was next--until me!  We had an instant connection on our first date, and the rest was history!

What's your favorite memory from your wedding day?
My favorite memory from our wedding day is a tough question!  We had a perfect day filled with joy and laughter.  I'll tell you two small bits.  Neither of us felt particularly nervous, I don't think, but AJ had trouble sleeping the night before thinking about details he didn't want to go wrong.  The pictures showing his face leading up to our first look show some real emotion--anticipation, a little anxiety, and definitely some fatigue.  But the moment I put my hand on his shoulder, his face changed completely--into a warm and honest look of relief.  A second great memory is actually from when we were reciting our vows!  We were trying hard to take some wise advice we had been given to really listen to and think and subscribe to the words we were saying and not to just repeat mindlessly.  But because we were trying to be so in the moment, we had a really hard time repeating what was said. We each had to ask for a repetition or peak over at our officiant's notes a couple of times!  It made for a lot of sincere laughter and really a sweet moment :)

What inspired you to select the vows you did?
Neither of us is religious so we didn't want to use fully traditional vows or a religious officiant.  In Colorado, where we live and got married, it's legal to self-solemnize your own marriage license--to just sign as the two parties that you're married and that's that.  We chose that route and to have a good friend officiate or emcee a ceremony for us without getting internet-ordained.  She had never done it before, so we really wound up crafting our own ceremony based on a lot of Google and Pinterest searches ;).  We wanted to find our own vows that spoke to us in a serious way and had some semblance of a traditional ceremony ("for richer or poorer..." etc).  We wound up scouring the internet for non-religious vows and secular wedding ceremonies and picked and chose different pieces from different posts that sounded right to us.  We're really happy with what we wound up with!

Congrats on being married for a year!! What advice would you give to new couples embarking on the adventure that is marriage?
We are each other's best friends, hands down.  We say "I love you" several times a day and kiss and hug when we say goodbye in the morning and when we greet each other after work.  We remind each other often that we're on the same team and that we're in it together.  It's going pretty well so far, and we're excited for our future!
 

wedding vows calligraphy - nora and aj - sunflowers


Thank you, Nora for sharing your story with me and for letting me be a small part of this special moment in your marriage!

Stories Behind the Script: Shelley's Story

I recently had the pleasure of lettering my first set of vows, and oh, what a joy it was! Personalized vows are a window into a couple's soul. It was such a honor to work with Shelley to translate those sweet words into something tangible for her and her husband for years to come.

gold calligraphy wedding vows
personalized calligraphy vows

Shelley was so sweet to work with and I wish her and her husband a lifetime of laughter and love!